Talking while saying Nothing.

Recently I was chatting to a good mate of mine. A friend of his had broken up with his long-term girlfriend who he seemed to absolutely adore. I didn’t quite understand what had happened because, as an outsider, they had seemed like the perfect couple who would go the distance. He explained things from the guy’s perspective. The girl, who had come from a very well-known and wealthy family, was studying a particularly tedious degree that would result in her being a much respected professional. This from the boyfriend’s perspective was intimidating as he was from a rather humble background and his degree, while not simple, would not result in a specific profession. The fact that this girl was definitely going places eventually took its toll on the boyfriend and he ended it. This statement led me down a path of thought that took me from Paris Hilton to Simone de Beauvoir and even the French porn movie Emmanuelle.

It is said that girls perform better in single sex schools. One imagines that in the 21st century that females are no longer ‘dumbing themselves down’ in the presence of men so to come across as a less intimidating and more appealing. If one had to picture an intellectual female she would be wearing a long neutral colour skirt below the knees a white blouse, drab mousy hair in a ponytail, flat sensible shoes and tortoise-shell glasses. She would be clutching a book to her chest. A regular ‘plain Jane.’ One imagines a sexy woman; she is blonde, tall, slim, barely clothed, large breasteses, big red lips and a bimbo. (Of course I am generalizing here). Why is this? Can a woman not be beautiful and intelligent? Can her intelligence not make her beautiful as apposed to plain? And why is an intelligent woman so intimidating, not only to men, but to other woman?

Simone de Beauvoir is a French female icon. Why? She was not a model or designer or actress but an intellectual. She was born in 1908 and at 21 moved to Paris to study philosophy at the Sorbonne. She then was one of the first women to be accepted to the Ecole Normale Superieure, the French answer to Oxford. In 1928 she met her life partner, the philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre and remained with him till his death. She is most famous for her book The second sex, published in 1949, a ground-breaking feminist work. For some she is seen as the initiator of real female emancipation. Now try and picture this woman? Someone who was an outspoken feminist, involved to a serial cheating philosopher. I’m sure (maybe) she is no Angelina Jolie and (he is no Brad Pitt.) However, recently this intellectual pair was compared to this glamorous Hollywood couple. Not for any other reason but to turn them into glamorous sex symbols. And why? Because the French VALUE intellect. They find intelligent women to be sexy and appealing. For the French, a part of a woman’s sexual animalistic appeal is her strong and clever mind. And so French women spend their time stimulating their minds by attending art galleries, reading meaningful literature and having heated, complex intellectual discussions. There is no ‘dumbing themselves down’ to come across as less intimidating and more appealing. After discovering this attitude toward intellect, Simone de Beauvoir is no longer the mousy-haired plain Jane but a tall, slender, glamorous seductress who teased men with her intellect and seduced them with her body and mind.
Emmanuelle (basically Emmanuelle went to Thailand and had a lot of sex, as one does) the famous French porn movie based on the book written by Emmanuelle Arsan (pseudonym) is full of philosophy. The French find it difficult to separate body, mind and soul and even this character finds this a difficult task ‘When I have an orgasm, it’s my spirit having an orgasm in my body; it’s not my body returning to some earlier bestial state! You want the spirit to take only pleasure in itself. Why? Life is wonderful throughout, in flesh as well as the spirit.’

Now on the other end of the spectrum, Paris Hilton. She is by no means an intellectual icon. In fact many would argue that she could not pronounce the word intellectual and define the word icon. Now I happen to think, although some don’t agree, that she is a stunning woman. (A man once told me he believes I am hotter than she, and should the opportunity arise I shall show this man exactly how much I appreciated the compliment, continuously for 2 weeks and then everyday after that, for the rest of our lives). But one thing that most people strongly disagree with me about is that Paris Hilton is in fact, quite an intelligent individual (and no it’s not because she is also of Scandinavian decent). What exactly is this annoying blonde famous for? Nothing. People cannot stand her, what she stands for or her various antics and yet they cannot get enough of her. If we look at her less famous sister, she has displayed a keen business sense and intelligence and how did I initially refer to her? The less famous sister. No dumb blonde turns around when her sex tape comes out and says go ahead and sell it, people are going to see it, they have seen it, there is very little I can do BUT I want a percentage of the profits. Dumb hey?
Paris Hilton has made millions of her own and remains famous despite doing very little worthy of her notoriety. People say it is because of her last name. But her sister shares this name and her looks, but is not as famous or as talked about. Part of Paris Hilton’s appeal is her stupidity. Which is, to a large extent, in my opinion, an act. I wonder where Paris would be if she didn’t dumb herself down? Famous in France only perhaps?

While most women seem to be behaving as though they are silly, stupid and simple, young girls with role models like Paris Hilton, French women are seducing men with their incredible sex appeal which in part if formed by their proud display of their keen intellect and strong knowledge. There is a fascination was with French women, their flawless style, fabulous figures, sophistication and the ability to tie a scarf in a hundred and one different ways. All of this seems innate and books have been written about French women and their amazing secrets. Think I will have to read some more on the French women to understand this fascination and maybe pick up a few tips.


Luckily not all men appreciate the silliness and like their women with a brain and a good pair of legs.

Remain Infinitely Cute
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